Partnership and Success!
Many times, in today’s society and throughout recorded history we have heard and seen cases of domestic violence. This phenomenon not only refers to abuse towards women. It could be also abused towards men. However, the majority of times the abuse is more common among women.
It is hard to believe that while most of the time couples get together because they love each other and consider life without a partner is not conceivable, many times this union turns into a nature of hostility where abuse begins and becomes worse as time goes on.
Most couples begin with good intentions of having life-long relationships. However, when they get together by marriage or by common law, they begin to know each other in a deeper way. Partners get acquainted with each other dysfunctionalities. Some people have addictions that cause personality abrupt changes that can be hidden during dating.
Vices such as drugs, alcohol, addiction to pornography are impediments to true happiness in a romantic union. If the case of the abuse is caused by addictions, it is important to understand that no one has the power to change anyone. If the partner values the relationship in a way that they want to change, couples counseling would be the way to proceed to help partners know each other from another dimension in a space where a third party can monitor and help each partner understand the abusive partner’s points of view. However, if the partner does not want to change or gives excuses why they do not change, the abused partner may consider seeking his or her own counseling guidance for their own wellbeing.
When the partner just expresses antipathy towards the partner they once loved, the relationship between the couple begins to suffer. It may be that the fire of romance is low or gone, and that often happens. Life responsibilities such as jobs, finances, their children and even extended families’ interventions and opinions can diminish romantic union success. If this is the case, there are ways to renew that long passed courting time. The couple may plan and act upon dating again, buying gifts for each other, and plan time to spend together away from the children and other family members.
After considering these two reasons why romantic relationships may suffer and at times break the union of two people who once loved each other with passion and tenderness, each individual may understand that if the two parties are willing to make the effort to improve the relationship with abundance of respect and love, the couple may give themselves a chance. If one of the partners refuses to cooperate, the battle is lost.
No one deserves to live in anguish, and everyone deserves to live with people who honor and respect them. In the dynamics of a relationship no one is better than the other, and no one has the right to mistreat and hurt their spouse/partner in any way. Life is precious and everyone should demand respect from within and from significant others in their life.
Eugenia Morefield, LPC
